What are you pretending not to know, that you know?

What are you pretending not to know, that you know?

Let’s get honest and talk about the things you’re avoiding—those quiet truths you push aside because it’s easier not to deal with them.

Maybe it’s the fact that the relationship you’re in is draining you.

Maybe it’s that you’ve outgrown your current job but fear stepping into the unknown.

Maybe it’s the acknowledgment that you’re capable of so much more than you’re letting yourself believe.

Or even that you deserve so much more.

Out of sight doesn’t always equal out of mind, and these buried truths have a way of surfacing when you least expect it.

We all do it. We pretend not to know things because the truth scares us.

But why?

Because our fear tells us that facing the truth will be painful.

Anxiety convinces us we won’t be able to handle it.

And lack of confidence whispers that if we try to change things, we’ll fail, and things will get worse.

So, we put on blinders, ignore the signs, and continue as if we don’t know better.

But when you pretend not to know something important, you lie to yourself. And lies—even those we tell ourselves—have a way of eroding trust in our abilities.

“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life, and you will call it fate.”

Carl Jung

Pretending not to know takes a toll on your mental and emotional health. It stunts your growth, keeps you from your potential and, more importantly, buries your dreams.

It’s like a mental roadblock that says, “You’re stuck here because you refuse to acknowledge what’s real.”

So, what’s the cost? Time. Confidence. Opportunities. Take your pick. You end up playing small instead of rescuing your dreams.

So, how do we stop pretending and start facing the truth?

  1. Acknowledge What You Know: Start by being brutally honest with yourself. What’s the thing you keep pretending not to know? Write it down. Seeing it in black and white often helps you confront it.

  2. Identify the Fear: What’s holding you back? Are you afraid of change, failure, or rejection? Be very specific and give that fear a name. Once you do, it becomes something you can work with rather than avoid.

  3. Take Small, Consistent Steps: You don’t need to overhaul your life in a day. Start small. Get 1% better. If you’ve been pretending that you’re okay in a job that no longer serves you, take the first step by researching new opportunities. If you’re stuck in a relationship, have an honest conversation. Or if you believe you’re capable of so much more, turn your ambition into action. Small steps compound into significant progress.

  4. Lean into Confidence: Confidence grows through action. The more steps you take, the more your self-assurance builds. As Peter Drucker said, “Action is the antidote to fear.”

So now what?

Stop pretending and start progressing. It’s time to Rescue Your Dreams™ instead of being stuck in a cycle of avoidance.

You already know what needs to be done.

Now give yourself permission to do it.

And then get busy.

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